How to not be an Asshole #3


Bear true faith and allegiance to the U.S. Constitution, the Army, your unit and other Soldiers. Bearing true faith and allegiance is a matter of believing in and devoting yourself to something or someone. A loyal Soldier is one who supports the leadership and stands up for fellow Soldiers. By wearing the uniform of the U.S. Army you are expressing your loyalty. And by doing your share, you show your loyalty to your unit. Continue reading

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How to not be an Asshole #2

4″Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ and behold, the log is in your own eye? 5″You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye. Continue reading

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How to not be an Asshole #1

21 “You have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not murder; and whoever murders will be liable to judgment.’ 22 But I say to you thateveryone who is angry with his brother[c]will be liable to judgment; whoever insults[d] his brother will be liable to the council; and whoever says, ‘You fool!’ will be liable to the hell[e] of fire. 23 So if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, 24 leave your gift there before the altar and go. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift. 25 Come to terms quickly with your accuser while you are going with him to court, lest your accuser hand you over to the judge, and the judge to the guard, and you be put in prison.26 Truly, I say to you, you will never get out until you have paid the last penny.[f] Continue reading

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you are never burden at home.
at home, you always belong.
never unwelcome to return home.

it is like a bed. how can you possibly sleep in a bed where you are an unwelcome burden in someone else’s place?

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apologies 101


All genuine apologies: Admit the fault, Apologize without excuse, Ask how to restore, Act immediately.

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When I was 18:

I had graduated high school Summa Cum Laude.  I had applied to many universities and was accepted at almost all of them, but chose the University of Texas at Austin.  After enduring an appendectomy two weeks or so prior, I moved out of my mother’s home and into my dorm room that I couldn’t afford (but didn’t know that yet).  Barely walking due to surgery, I started college and got a job.  My job to pay for my dorm and meals prevented me from actually getting dinner.  So I sufficed with getting a bit of lunch-to-go in the mornings.  It was a difficult start to college, but within a year, I was working as a “co-op engineering student” at IBM.  Yay.

When I was 24:

I was gainfully employed at Texas Instruments and selected as the lead engineer for the Sun Microsystems contract for the products we would manufacture and test. (It was kind of a big deal in the technical world.)  I had a wife and a 2 year old daughter, living in a 3 bedroom apartment with a new car and washer/dryer.  Life was good.  A year later, I’m figuring out that divorce was inevitable.  Yay.

When I was 30:

I had my own consulting business, a (2nd) wife and 3 children.  Every penny my family had was solicited, earned, and collected by yours truly.  I did rather well, though I didn’t know it because I didn’t account for any of it.  That was the wife’s part – spend and keep track of bills.  Life was pretty good.  Little did I know how difficult self employment would be over the next 5 years.

When I was 36:

Business was in the toilet (thanks, 9-11) and decided to sell myself to the government for a few extra hundred per month.  Also, really wanted to do military service all my life but never wanted to deal with it.  That makes sense to me, somehow.  I spent that year in basic training and Officer Candidate School.  The remnants of my business tanked.  My 4th and final child was born.  I embraced being just a soldier/employee full time and only helped out former clients as a favor.

When I was 42:

I went to war.  It was a horrible experience.

When I was 43:

My second divorce began and I learned things about how my children’s mother treated them behind my back.  That was a nastier divorce than most deal with.  Not often a mother calls the police on her own children for peacefully walking away from her abusive behavior.  Enough said on that.

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